Should You Stay Away From Your Child’s Next Game
Watching children participate in sports can be a wonderful experience foryoungsters and for their parents.
Some kids really love having their family members at their sporting events.
And some moms and dads love coaching their kids in sports like baseball, soccer,basketball and football.
Parents often feel good about themselves for “making it to all of their kid’sgames.” And parents do deserve credit for their willingness to adjust their
busy schedules to get to their children’s events.
Also, there is no question that sports can really be a wonderful way for a parent and a child to bond with one another.
However, many parents and kids have witnessed sports parents who behave poorly at sporting events. These kinds of parents can create a lot of pressure for children
and they can produce some ugly scenes at athletic contests.
Having counseled thousands of young athletes, I have noticed that many kids feel better, play better and enjoy their sport more when their parents are not present.
A preference for limited parent involvement has been communicated to me byathletes from a wide range of team sports and individual sports.
Where individual sports like figure skating, gymnastics, golf and tennis are concerned, some young athletes report discomfort and they feel as if they are under their
Some kids, who are very eager to please their parents, can feel very anxious when their parents are in the stands. Their presence becomes a distraction and a source of anxiety and stress.
And some youngsters report having a better time when they are allowed to nteract with their teammates, opponents and coaches without their parents involvement.
Some kids simply have more fun if they are allowed to enjoy their sport in their own way on their own terms.
If your child is involved in sports ask him or her how they feel about you beingt their games.
Realize that their desire for your presence can change as they grow up. Some kids will want more parental involvement in sports and others will want to go it alone as
they mature. And some will want you there but they will not want any feedback,comments, criticism or advice from you.
Listen carefully to your kids request regarding your involvement with his or her sports.
Jay P. Granat, Ph.D. is a psychotherapist and licensed marriage and family counselor. He is also the founder of www.StayInTheZone.com. Here is a link to a program for young athletes and their parents. http://stayinthezone.com/shop/sports-psychology-program-for-children-and-parents/